The enemy of love is not hate it’s apathy. But the enemy of security is the illusion that we can control the external world.

Esther Perel

A friend asked me “what if you succeed then I will remain behind aren’t you feel that way about me.”

I said “No I if you’ll succeed I’ll celebrate with you.”

Now when I went home and started to think what he said. I was angry at him, has he no sense of responsibility. How can he ask such stupid question? I started to go down on times when he refused to help me when I was in need of help. Such a weakling I thought. That’s why he fears helping me.

That’s when I was wrong. I started to feel I’m superior than him. I started to look down on him. I thought what a looser. That’s when i lost it too.

You know when we start to feel we are superior and a bit more well off than somebody. We forget the fact we are harboring over confidence. Now that in a relationship and friendship is devastating. It not only kills your confidence but in turn it brings barrier someone might have planted in the form of doubt in your friend.

I should have asked who planted the doubt. Tell me who is jealous of our friendship. But sadly I didn’t and we been falling apart since then.

So the point is blame it on someone else and move forward in your friendship. Yeah do that and you’ll be deep in bad outcomes.

Instead try this “Say that oh come on you will be more successful I know.” The fact is your friend might be dealing with low self esteem. Cheer him or her up. That’s the best thing you can do.

Alright see you if you want to discuss more on this topic comment and I’ll bring other point of views. Take Care.